Most couple relationship journals I have seen online are used to strengthen a marriage by responding to a prompt of some kind. The kind I am talking about today is used to document the good, the bad, and the ugly of a relationship.
While it is possible to deepen the bonds of communication by answering journal prompts, I also believe it is important to really analyze one’s own relationship to be able to understand what works and what can be improved. Therefore, this kind of relationship journal is a place where you write notes to one another, about your thoughts, feelings, desires, and fears.
I believe there is something magical about writing on paper. The act of writing opens up a deeper connection within ourselves. If you can, I believe that it would be beneficial to use the relationship journal often, ESPECIALLY when you may be angry or disappointed with your partner.
By writing, instead of speaking, you are able to think twice about what you are writing, or even cross out something you realize you do not want to say. It allows you time to think before saying something that you can regret later.
As they say, a relationship is never a bed of roses. By documenting all, you are able to clearly see that a relationship may have ups and downs, but it is constantly changing AND evolving.
By using a relationship journal, you are able to look back and see it is not always bad, or always good. (If you cannot think of positive things for the journal, I recommend it may be time for couples counseling).
I believe joy in relationships come from the times when we make up, learn about each other, grow, and recommit to our love for each other.
If you are interested in creating one, all you need is a journal and a pen.
I created a downloadable free list of 50 Journal Prompts for a Relationship Journal. To download, enter your information in the form below.
Some specific examples of things to write or document in a relationship journal besides notes/letters to each other are:
- What do you love about your partner?
- Why did you fall in love with partner?
- A list of songs that you have dedicated to each other
- A list of movies you have watched together
- for this year? (could be moving, making new couple friends, starting a budget, etc.)
- What would you like to see change in the relationship?
- What are you sorry about the argument you just had?
- What do you plan to change in the relationship since your last argument?
- Why are you angry?
- Why are you disappointed?
CREATING A DEEPER CONNECTION
- What is my happiest memory?
- What is my saddest memory?
- What is my worst fear?
- What do is my favorite book and why?
- What is my favorite movie and why?
Remember, with any type of relationship, it is important to be cognizant of how often you talk about negatives. In order to prevent going down a downward spiral, it is important to combat that tendency by finding positivity in your partner. No one is perfect; everyone makes mistakes, so it is important to not overlook what makes your partner a lovable and amazing person.
I hope you try a relationship journal with your partner. If so, please feel free to share if it works for your relationship.
Sending You Love and Light on Your Journey,,
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